There are many people searching for the answer to “Why does caste matter?” caste system and inter caste marriages. A user on Twitter named Tanayraj Singh Chouhan beautifully explained it in a thread of tweets. Here is how you should raise your children in a good environment.
Why does caste matter?
I have observed many people questioning, "Why does caste matter?” So I would take a few minutes of your life to explain it.
— Sunny (@tschauhan95) October 29, 2021
Who created the caste system?
I have observed many people questioning, “Why does caste matter?” So I would take a few minutes of your life to explain it. By the end of this I hope you will find an answer. First of all let me tell you that it’s we the people who created the caste system and we are questioning our own creation now? Applause! (Ok, don’t leave, I have the answer to your question so just continue watching it till the end). Now some simple minded people will come and say that our ancestors created it and it is meaningless, so to them I would like to counter-question something. The ancestors told you to mix salt in food and you do the same without questioning, the ancestors told you to wear clothes to cover your body, you follow that too without questioning. The ancestors refrained us from consuming poison and we follow that too without even trying to taste it.
Why does caste matter?
Ok, the most important thing which comes now, from where your original question emerged is ‘why caste matters’, Marriage! Ancestors told us to get married too, and we do that too unquestioned. But the thing which pinged you or pricked you is that you are not allowed to marry someone who you love outside your caste. Who refrained you? Your parents, your society or your ethics? If you are questioning your parents who struggled to bring you up as a good person, you know where you stand. Ok, exceptionally if your parents were rich and harsh on you this reason becomes void, but others come up, your mentality, your environment and your upbringing obviously. Sounds too theoretical? Let me give an example. Caste system was established on the basis of occupation initially which means a scholar was Brahmin and a warrior was Kshatriya but if son of a Brahmin chose to fight he would be categorized as a Kshatriya. I know it is not the same anymore due to the politics of votes. But, keeping that aside, talking about 2021, I am a Rajput and suppose that somehow despite knowing all the boundaries and customs and caste system I got attracted to a Brahmin girl. Now we decided to get married and somehow convinced our parents too, being their loved children. But let’s go to our respective flashbacks now. I grew up in a Rajput family where swords, guns, glory, kings, drinking habits, non-veg food, rajputi dressing and hunting and tales of Mewar Ratna Maharana Pratap and Brave Prithviraj Chouhan are common. My upbringing reflect in my current habits too. On the other hand talking about my imaginary crush the Brahmin girl, she grew up among things like holy books, granths, vedas, stories of pandits and veg food and anti-drinks environment and as some scholar child, seeing women wearing saree and less or no ghunghat, etc and they reflect in her present day habits. Are we a perfect match for lifetime? Maybe either of us will change our habits, either I quit non-veg or she starts eating that. In both cases someone has to compromise. Now again a group of people will say we have to adjust in love. Yes I know, but you can’t force your families to adjust because of your love, marriage is not just between a girl and a boy, it is between 2 different families. Finding the exact same family is next to impossible, but there are chances that families belonging to the same caste know and understand each other’s customs very well. Like Rajputs don’t allow females in baraat but some castes do, the ideology difference comes up in such small gestures which become problematic as love ages. From compromising and sacrificing for each other to thinking that only he/she is the one adjusting and compromising, much love is lost. This is just an example of both kids belonging to the same category, general. Trust me, if this pair becomes general-SC or general-ST it becomes worse.
Now in some corner of your mind there is still a small question/query/suggestion which you want to slap on my face and that is what if a Brahmin family eats non-veg and drinks liquor and wears Rajputi clothes and follow there rituals since childhood, and same goes with Rajput family following Brahmin culture, so guys as I said in starting that the Varn Vyavastha or caste system was not assigned by birth when it was in its initial phase, so by going against their customs the families are already challenging their fellow caste-mates so inter-caste marriages are not problematic with them. And that’s what we see increasing inter-caste marriages like kids falling in love in their colleges or work which means they are somewhat of the same ideology and social status. For example IAS officers Tina Dabi and Athar Aamir Khan, both belonged to the IAS field. Although both are divorced now, this example is the reference of same social status or work fields. It is very uncommon and unlikely for a guy working in a software company to fall for the daughter of a street vendor selling fruits in front of his office. I am not disrespecting any religion/work just giving an example. Still such things happen exceptionally and that is acceptable and is praised too.
You need to be exceptional if you want your inter-caste marriage to be successful or in the headlines then only you can question, apart from that the inter-caste marriage is neither justified nor appropriate.
And if your question arose because of the reservation criteria based on caste system, then I also don’t have an answer and that question is really a big matter which we can discuss later.
This was the whole thread based on the importance of the caste system and is inter-caste marriage justified or not.